In order to get to your goal, you need to stop telling yourself you don’t know how.
No one knows how to do something before they do it. But people do things they haven’t done before all the time. Why? Because they don’t get bogged down with not knowing how. They take a tiny step forward to see if it works. And then another. And then another.
It happens to all of us, especially when something means a lot to us. It can be easier to tell ourselves we don’t know how (because it is true after all,) than it is to spend the mental energy figuring out how. But this isn’t serving us, and it is KEEPING US from reaching our potential.
So, how do we get away from an “I don’t know how” mindset? We eliminate the thought each time it comes into our mind, and instead ask ourselves alternate questions, starting from a place of curiosity.
Start by feeling the difference between the following two statements. First, tell yourself “I don’t know how to do [whatever the thing is.]” How does that make you feel in your body?
After you’ve identified that feeling, tell yourself “this is possible and I will figure it out.” How different does that feel? Even if it may still hold some feelings of overwhelm, it also probably feels a lot more open and hopeful.
Here are some other questions and thoughts to swap for “I don’t know how” that will get you results if you implement them regularly:
- What can I do to learn more?
- How can this be done?
- What can I try and see if it gets me closer to my goal?
- I can figure this out
- Each step is progress
Learning how to do something and reaching a goal is a process. It is totally normal to not know how to do something at your starting point, but in order to get results, you need to ditch the thought that you don’t know how, because it is that thought that is keeping you from taking that first step.
Get curious, tell yourself you can figure it out, and move toward that belief. Eventually, you will know how.